Wednesday, June 24, 2009

RELATIONSHIP ABCs


I believe that everything is life is about the nature and quality of our relationships and the choices we make. Whether you are a spouse, parent, friend, sibling. boss, relative, employee, or acquaintance, you can apply the ABCs of Strong Relationships. We are designed to fit with one another and do life together. You will notice how these concepts entwine with each other - what I call God's synchronicity in the world.

A - ADAPT Be flexible. Everything Changes. No two people grow at the same rate.
"Blessed are the flexible for they shall never be bent out of shape." - M McGriffy -

B - BUILD UP Ask yourself if what you are doing or saying is building up or tearing down. Aim for positive,
healthy, helpful interactions.
"There are two ways of exerting one's strength - one is pushing down, the other is
pulling up." - Booker T. Washington -

C - COMMUNICATE Honest, direct conversation is usually best. Check in with the other person to be sure
you are both clear. If not, clarify and check in again.
"Seek first to understand, then to be understood." - Stephen Covey -

Read the rest of the article then come back and psot your own ABCs for Strong Relationships

Monday, June 1, 2009

SMARTS IN A SECOND


Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland,"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written."My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."


What would you add to this list? Let's create a list of "Smarts in a Second" to encourage us and give us a boost whenever we need one - FAST!

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Twelve Transforming Words

There are four behaviors so toxic that relationship expert John Gottman has labeled them the Four Horsemen of the Apacolypse. Read about them in the May 7 newsletter archived here. The good news is that there are 12 Transforming Words that go a long way to heal the hurts left by the Four Horsemen.

What do you think? Do the Four Horsemen ride roughshod in your relationship? Are you willing to make some changes? Post your thoughts here.



It's all about the space between You and Me - the US that is Holy Ground. Nurturing and protecting that space is crucial to long lasting and fulfilling relationships. The entire article is here (after May 21). Feeling safe and creating safety for others are also paramount to achieving success. There has been considerable resonance and conversation about building relationships. Let's get some community dialogue going and encourage each other. I consider US to be Holy Ground and thank you for all you bring!

Thursday, April 16, 2009

Let Your Dream SING!

Susan Boyle, 47 y.o., never been kissed, caretaker for her mum - walked out on stage and shared her dream in a way that will delight, astound and inspire you! Oh! God gifts us in such interesting and amazing ways. This is a treat. Enjoy!

Shake it Off and Step Up!



One day a farmer a farmer discovered that his old mule had fallen into an abandoned well pit he had been meaning to fill. He ran to get help from his neighbors but soon realized there was nothing to be done. Sadly, they began to throw shovels full of dirt into the pit. The hurt and frightened mule, understanding his plight, hung his head and brayed pitifully. Suddenly, despite dirt and rocks raining down on his back, he realized he could shake it off and step up. Thus began the arduous process of, just a little at a time, shaking it off and stepping up. Bruised and battered he was finally able to shake it off and step up over the lip of the well and onto the ground.

Are you facing some trials? Do you feel the weight of each shovel full on your back? I am ready to help you to SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP! You can live in joy and victory.

Read the entire article (after Friday) then come on back and share!

Thursday, April 9, 2009

WHO HAS IT BEEN FOR YOU?

Here's a short quiz:
Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
Name the last five Nobel Prize winners.
List the last few Academy Award winners for Best Actor or Best Film.
List the last five opposing presidential candidates and their running mates.

How did you do?
None of us remembers the headliners of yesterday - much less last year or last decade. These are not second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields. And yet.....

Read the enitre article here; take a couple more quizzes and come back and post your thoughts!

Sunday, April 5, 2009

PLANT YOUR GARDEN

I got this from my lifelong friend Nancy. I don't know who to credit it to.
Enjoy!
FOR THE GARDEN OF YOUR DAILY LIVING,
PLANT THREE ROWS OF PEAS:

1. Peace of mind
2. Peace of heart
3. Peace of soul

PLANT FOUR ROWS OF SQUASH:

1. Squash gossip
2. Squash indifference
3. Squash grumbling
4. Squash selfishness

PLANT FOUR ROWS OF LETTUCE:

1. Lettuce be faithful
2. Lettuce be kind
3. Lettuce be patient
4. Lettuce really love one another

NO GARDEN IS WITHOUT TURNIPS:

1. Turnip for meetings
2. Turnip for service
3. Turnip to help one another

TO CONCLUDE OUR GARDEN WE MUST HAVE THYME:

1. Thyme for each other
2.. Thyme for family
3.. Thyme for friends

WATER FREELY WITH PATIENCE AND CULTIVATE WITH LOVE. THERE IS MUCH FRUIT IN YOUR GARDEN BECAUSE YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.